But why? Procrastinating about doing

This weekend we had a lovely Christmas Day, yup a Christmas Day in April for Mama Bear’s Gran who was in hospital over the actual festive season.

The family was there to celebrate the day and have a beautiful Christmas meal with all the trimmings! B-e-a-u-tiful!

During the dinner I was speaking with my SiL (Sister in law), that’s a bit boring, let’s say Uncle Bear or UB for short! The Bear calls his Aunty his Uncle…. Thanks Fireman Sam!

UB was saying how she would like to try something new and was building up to it, all round the table we were so full of encouragement for what UB was planning.

This got me thinking….

A front row seat

This week whilst at the play park I sent my Bear off to play on the equipment and I was privileged to witness a transformation.

One I didn’t expect to see.

My small bear went off to play on the slides then he called after me to play, we were running around having fun playing silly games when another child joined in. We then all played hide and seek. It was great, obviously I lost cause it was two against one.

Then I was privileged to watch a transformation.

Be there, be present….

How many times have we been in a situation where we have been in a situation but not been there.

We have missed a message or a specific event because we have not been present.

Since getting married and becoming a Dad I’ve learnt the secrets to being present.

They are hard lessons but vital.

Reflections – a thank you

Today I have learnt something amazing.

Thanks to two conversations I have found what I couldn’t describe.

I want to unlock my potential to allow growth.

The Parent Trap – follow the lead

I’m just sat reflecting on an amazingly fun weekend.

It wasn’t the most extravagant weekend. In fact to some most of the events would be run of the mill standard stuff – food shopping and chores.

The most amazing part of the weekend was how much the Bear and I played.

However, it was hard not to fall into the trap.

Should you compromise?

In our everyday life and the various interactions we have we will compromise in all manner of ways. From small things to how we take our drinks when someone else is making, to the larger compromises to enable the successful completion of a task.

In all these compromises, is it ok to compromise ourselves?

What’s the issues with Monday?

As I sit here now I am wondering why there is the obligitary Sunday evening posts on social media sites regarding the “dreaded” words….. the weekends over or Monday dundundeeerrrrr!

I’m lost by this, with still a good six hours of a Sunday to go there are people building their anxiety about the next day.

Today isn’t over, there is so much that you could do in the short space of time till Monday, why are we using energy and effort on building up the fears for the next day?

It’s not the race but the runner

When on the Playstation the other night I was chatting away to a good friend of mine when he said something that really struck a chord.

The only person you’re racing against is yourself

I’ve never thought of it like this before, this seems like the most appropriate pharse to encapsulate what im trying to achieve.

As part of my growth I’ve been trying to live by the following:

• Do you
• For you
• Beacause you want to
• Because it makes you happy

However the four points might need adding too, they dont cover the natural benchmarking against others we do.

How I understood honesty in a lazy way

I’ve started to explore what is making me have this hunger for personal development, in this previous post I outlined the pillars I am framing my growth on, they are:

• Compromise
• Permission
• Belief
• Trust
• Effort
• Honesty

These are the areas in which I believe if I understand will enable my growth and development.

So to be honest, I’m lazy.

My Developing Uncomfort

It’s been under a months since I embraced my need to grow. It’s been about 3 months since I decided that I wanted to grow and change.

I’m the last month I have never been so conflicted about the ways in which I’ve been pushing myself.

I can honestly say that starting to push myself is starting to make me feel like I’m growing.

In the last month we have seen the first scan of our second bear which had been the icing and the cherry on icing on the cake that is my home life. We are now complete.

I have also been pushing my uncomfort.