Lessons in Parenting from a Garden Gate

It’s Sunday evening and Mama Bear and I are now relaxing, today has been a busy day for us, and it was all unplanned.

Yesterday was such a lovely relaxing day it felt like a Sunday, however after today’s events we seem to have switched the days around.

It’s also been a day where I’ve learnt a lot about parenting, mainly from a gate.

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Challenges, Cots and Cranes

This summer The Bear turns four, which marks then next major level up point. In September he starts Big School and we can’t wait!

That’s the Royal We, The Bear is really excited to start school, Mama Bear and I are excited for him to start school. Mainly because he is ready. The Bear is ready to start the next level of his education both academically and socially.

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Taking Responsibility

The last few weeks at work have been a challenge, for the most part the challenge has been a great adventure, it has also been difficult and very tiring!

I cannot and won’t go into specifics of the troubles, however its highlighted something that I think is common in our lives as people and definitely as a Dad.

Over the last 10 days I have had to take responsibility for actions that were not of my making. I have had to make decisions when others haven’t, I have had to make myself available to take on board others frustrations and anger. All for one simple reason, it was and is the right thing to do and it was my responsibility.

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The Monkeybear Podcast – Episode Zero , The Step into the unknown!

MBP logoEvening all,

Below is the transcript from my first Podcast, The Monkeybear Podcast – Episode Zero, a step into the unknown.

The podcast is currently available on SoundCloud and iTunes, just search for The Monkeybear Podcast or click:



I really enjoyed the process in recording and its something i cant wait to develop further.

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Flat pack frustration

Today has been a fun day.

It’s been a day where I’ve spent all building and finished it getting frustrated with b@$t@%d flat pack.

In three months the three Bears will be come four.

So we are entering the prep phase of the pregnancy.

I say we….

Today it was me…..

Today we were supposed to be going out to see friends but we cancelled as we needed an ‘in’ day.

This meant from 0730 this morning, the three of us were doing various things.

The Bear was playing with Lego

Mama Bear was cleaning Harry the Hamster.

I ironed.

It’s what we do!

I then decided to get clean to seize the day.

This resulted in me pondering while cleaning my teeth something Mama Bear has said.

“I’d like to turn the cupboard in the Bear’s room in to a wardrobe so we can start sorting the nursary’

How this was only a comment and not a request, however during cleaning my teeth I thought I’d do it.

I would build a wardrobe in the Bear’s cupboard.

I got clean and dressed and triumphantly walked down to Mama Bear and said.

“The Bear and I are off to get wood, we’re building a wardrobe.”

So off to gather wood we went.

An extrodinary amount and 30minutes later we returned with the wood required to transform the cupboard into a wardrobe.

Cut to a montage of me cutting, measuring, drilling and building.

Four hours later and some lunch……

I had created a perfect hanging space!

Not a bodge, no corners cut, a hand built hanging space was created.

It’s one of my best builds yet.

After a tidy up and preparing some meat to make Biltong, I decided to build the cot bed on the nursery.

This is the same cot bed we used for the Bear, we kept it all in immaculate condition and because it’s a 3 in 1 at each devolution stage during the Bear’s use we made sure all was kept pristine.

Another montage time….

Two and a half hours…

Copious amounts of frustration.

At one point I even said to an inanimate object:

“Why are you being an arse just fit, it’s your purpose”

A few cuts and sore knees later…

We have a cot bed!!!

This raised the question……..

Why oh why is something that is supposed to be assembled in an easy way the most frustrating to put together?!?!

It made me go full on Basil Faulty I was one step away from the thrashing it with in an inch of its life!

I was able to build a wardrobe from scratch and with no plans but a pre planned build was a cause of major frustration!

Still the nursery is now on it’s way to getting finished and I’m sat catching up on Homland with a refreshing beverage!

Have a good Sunday!


But why? Procrastinating about doing

This weekend we had a lovely Christmas Day, yup a Christmas Day in April for Mama Bear’s Gran who was in hospital over the actual festive season.

The family was there to celebrate the day and have a beautiful Christmas meal with all the trimmings! B-e-a-u-tiful!

During the dinner I was speaking with my SiL (Sister in law), that’s a bit boring, let’s say Uncle Bear or UB for short! The Bear calls his Aunty his Uncle…. Thanks Fireman Sam!

UB was saying how she would like to try something new and was building up to it, all round the table we were so full of encouragement for what UB was planning.

This got me thinking….

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A front row seat

This week whilst at the play park I sent my Bear off to play on the equipment and I was privileged to witness a transformation.

One I didn’t expect to see.

My small bear went off to play on the slides then he called after me to play, we were running around having fun playing silly games when another child joined in. We then all played hide and seek. It was great, obviously I lost cause it was two against one.

Then I was privileged to watch a transformation.

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